And even though I did not need to rely on my own questions, I’m including them here supplement your discussion:
Introduction:
Before reading this book/watching the movie had any of you heard about this story?
What were your thoughts about Heaven or the afterlife prior to reading this?
Do you have a theory of belief of what happens after death? Does it match with what Colton described?
Had you read or heard about any other accounts of Heaven/the afterlife? How does Colton’s experience compare to those? Were those accounts by people who were older? Does age matter?
Burpo family:
What roles did Todd have? [Pastor, Business owner, Volunteer firefighter, Wrestling coach, Husband, Dad] What roles did Sonja have?
Discuss the challenges the Burpo family faced before Colton got sick. [Shattered leg, surgeries, cancer scare, financial difficulty]
How is laughter helpful during tough times?
Pastors & their families tend to be in the role of helper; it’s more comfortable for them. How did they react to being the role of helpee?
Sickness:
Discuss the trip to Colorado. Why were they going?
Discuss holding the spider. What did it mean to the kids? Why didn’t Colton hold the spider on this trip? What did it mean for him to finally hold the spider?
What did they decide to do when Colton got sick on the trip? And why did they delay getting treatment?
How did their jobs as pastor and teacher inform their decisions? They wanted to trust the doctors & tests, but at what point do you act on your instinct? They kept waiting and waiting, hoping the next time would bring a change.
In hindsight, maybe they should have done something differently. What would you have done? Have you ever been in a situation where you felt like you weren’t doing anything?
Discuss Todd & Sonja’s different approaches to crisis.
Heaven:
Colton reveals his story over a couple of years, bit by bit, instead of all at the same time. Why did it take so long? Does that make his story more or less believable?
Burpo asks: Could this be real? [Do you think Colton really experienced this? Was it a dream? If so, how did he know what his parents were doing while he was under anesthesia?] p. Xxi
The Burpos decided to stick with open-ended questions as the situation presented itself & try not to fill in the blanks. Was this helpful in making the story more believable?
Then Todd had a realization, Colton didn’t die. How could he have gone to heaven if he didn’t die? What was going on here? The Bible does talk in several places about people who had seen Heaven without dying. Colton said Jesus sent him back because he was answering Todd’s prayer. Does Jesus answer prayers personally? Todd asks: “Why would God even answer a prayer like that? And how did I deserve his mercy?” Remember, Todd had been raging at God.
Colton mentioned seeing lots of kids. Maybe Heaven doesn’t track with Earth time. Todd always thought God operated outside of our understanding of time. Maybe time is different in Heaven? Or maybe our understanding of time is different?
Did Colton really see/visit Heaven? Or was he just retelling stories he had heard?
How do you explain things like Colton knowing he had another sister that had died before he was born? Or meeting his great grandfather who died 30 years before he was born?
Discuss time in Heaven compared to Earth time? What is it? Can it be different?
Would you expect different people to have different experiences in Heaven? Or would there be similarities?
Some common descriptions of dying include moving along long tunnels with a bright light at the end and meeting departed loved ones there or an out-of-body experience where one hovers over their body as doctors and nurses try to save them. Why is Colton’s experience/description different? Which do you think is more authentic?
Religion:
The things Colton talked about were not preschool material. Colton talked about Jesus having “markers.” Catholic kids grow up with images of Jesus on the cross, but not Protestant kids. Colton spoke with the conviction of an eyewitness, not the carefulness of someone remembering. How do you explain this? Is there some other way Colton could have this information?”
How did visiting nursing homes at an early age influence Colton’s awareness of death and dying?
What do people do when they have no extended family or church?
What does it mean to have “faith like a child?” “Whoever humbles himself like this child…” (Lack of agenda, lack of guile, a time before we care what other people think…) And how is it different from grown-up faith?
Colton:
Colton was at the age when kids just say what they are thinking. How did that make him a more reliable narrator? Or not?
How did Colton’s age at the time (almost 4) influence his experience and how he described his visit? Do preschoolers have an awareness of Heaven? How would his experience have been different at 10, 20 or 40?
How could Colton have known some of this stuff? Is there any other possible explanation?
Why didn’t Colton fear death?
Was it possible for Colton to be a regular kid? Why or why not?
Controversy:
Why did they wait so long to share Colton’s story?
Todd talks about the “doubting Thomas,” someone who refuses to believe something without physical evidence or direct personal experience…a person without faith. Is anyone here a “doubting Thomas?”
This book was a bestseller when it came out in 2010. What made it so popular? What are people looking for in books like this?
Was this a publicity stunt? A way to get more people to join the church?
How did they handle the publicity? How did this affect Colton as a kid?
Miscellaneous:
As the book progresses, Colton’s narrative changes from descriptive to prophetic. Did this surprise you?
How did Colton’s experience change the family?
Do you think Todd included too much story about the family, their challenges, and Colton’s illness?
How is the family bolder about talking about/sharing their faith?
What did you like most about Colton’s experience? What bothered you?
If you believe this story, why did God choose Colton, the Burpos?
How is a child’s perspective different from an adult’s?
Has Colton’s experience changed the way you view life? Death? And Heaven or the afterlife?
Why didn’t the Burpos write down all the names of the people Colton met?
Discuss Colton’s descriptions of Jesus and his horse. He described Jesus as having blue eyes. Do you think this is logical?
Would Jesus appear the same to everyone or different to people of different cultures?
Todd writes about a young self-taught artist, Akiane Kramarik. Her mother is an atheist. Akiane’s portrait of Jesus matches what Colton saw. To Todd, Akiane’s story showed that God can reach anyone. She also claimed to have visited Heaven. Discuss the similarities and differences between Akiane and Colton.
Have your thoughts about Heaven/the afterlife changed after reading this book?
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Details: Heaven is for Real: A Little Boy’s Astounding Story of His Trip to Heaven and Back by Todd Burpo with Lynn Vincent. Paperback published by W Publishing Group in 2010. 163 p. ISBN: 978-0-8499-4615-8
